Facing an unplanned pregnancy can be overwhelming. You may feel you do not have the support needed to go through this journey. It can become even more complicated if your partner is abusive. 

Your safety is of the utmost importance! You deserve to be in an environment free from harm and danger. 

Do I Feel Safe Telling My Partner About My Unplanned Pregnancy?

The biggest question facing you is, “Do I feel safe telling my partner about my unplanned pregnancy?” Some women may feel that telling their partner will not harm them. Others may worry that their partner will lash out in an angry or aggressive way. 

If your partner is abusive, speaking with someone you trust first is crucial. Placing yourself in a safe, loving environment is one of the best things you can do to protect your well-being. You deserve to feel protected and secure when sharing this news with others. 

Abuse of any kind is never okay. For your protection, you must consider moving yourself to a safe place. If you choose to continue with your pregnancy, experiencing abuse can lead to miscarriage, preterm labor, or other health issues for both you and your baby. 

Some steps you should take to protect yourself include:

1. Speak to someone you trust. 

The person you talk with could include a family member, friend, doctor, counselor, or clergyman.

There are also hotline numbers that you can call to receive support. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is (800) 799-SAFE (7233).

2. If you have experienced physical harm, don’t wait to seek help.

If your partner has harmed you, consider seeking emergency help immediately. In addition to   contacting an abuse hotline, try and stay with a relative or friend you trust or reach out to your local women’s shelter. 

3. Have a backup plan. 

Ensure that you have the money and documents you need. These include your Social Security card, passport, credit cards, and banking information if you have them. Make sure you keep these documents in a safe place.  If you do not have these documents or cannot safely access them, getting replacement documents is possible. Your safety is the priority. 

Next, you’ll want to pack a suitcase with extra clothes and toiletries. Leaving a suitcase at a friend or family member’s house will ensure you have the things you need if you must quickly get away from your abusive partner.

Who Can I Reach Out to for Support?

You may feel unsure of where to turn to for support when you have an abusive partner. Being frightened is a normal feeling, and you deserve to receive the help you need. 

At Alpha Omega Center, we can help you put a plan in place to make the best pregnancy decision for you. We provide well-woman visits and a unique program called New Beginnings. If you choose the parenting option, New Beginnings can provide parenting education and material assistance for both expectant parents and parents of children aged three and under. 

If you are looking for a non-judgmental space to speak with someone about your pregnancy options, we can help. Contact us today to talk with our warm and caring staff. You are not alone. We are here for you!